GIVE TIME TO LOVE

 

Do you love me ? This is a  common question arising after few years if you are married or if you are into any relationship.No time to love, Most of the people are going through the same problem in their  relationships.In todays life, because of wants been unlimited, we are never happy with what we have, we will always like to compete to see how we can grow more wealth and get better than our neighbour and family members.

If someone from your neighbourhood has purchased some good bike, we will try to show off by buying more costlier sports bike, if someone has purchased a car, than we try and see how we can get more costlier brand car than the other person.So we as individuals, are always restless trying to earn more if both that is husband and wife is working.

If wife is not working, than husband is busy working, trying to earn more because of the increase in expenses. If working is a problem on the other side not working also tends to be a problem.If husband loses his job and wife is a housewife, there are pressures in the house to get money and stress about the daily expenses, beacause of this, couples fail to avoid making love.

When each couple is not able to give time to each other, arguments tend to increase more between them.Paying regular bills become a problem if anyone forgets to pay eletricity, phone bill or any other bill.For every mistake that happens each one try to blame each other most of the times saying i am more busy, you can do it and still you are not doing it.Later because of arguments and fights each one hates to see each other since it spoils their mood when they fight or argue at home while going to office.Because of such problematic situations and arguments one tends to get less efficient at work.

There are many who tends to carry their home problems to office, and tends to be less productive at work.If the boss tends to shout because of the low performance one comes home and again argue and fight at home.So it becomes a never ending story, and the chain keeps going round and round each other and no one is willing to solve the problem.

EGO becomes a major problem between the couples,during such time and it effects the relationship more bad.When you are going through such problems and if you tend to have a nagative friend, than situation will get more worse since the advice most of the times given by a negative friend always turns to be bad making problems to increase more.

If you really want to take a good advice, than either look out for a friend, whos relationship at his house is good and who is a positive person, if you dont have any than go to a good councelor,or psychologist or psychiatrist based on your problems.

HOW CAN WE SOLVE PROBLEMS OF ARGUMENT IN RELATIONSHIPS AND GET BETTER :- 

1. Understanding your partner :- Every individual comes from a different environment, and different upbringing and every one has different kinds of friends some may have mostly negative and they may only like to gossip about each others and mostly others problems and always grumble with their life, and the other set of people is who even though who have problems will try and manage their problems calmly and solve them.

So it becomes very important first to know what kind of a partner that you have married.If she is hypertension patient or have some anger syndrone on small  things, try to find out on which situations she likes to be happy, and handle calmly.

2. Follow the basic :-  When your spouse is upset with you or angry, do not argue more with your spouse, things would get more difficult by you arguing or giving any explanation.Just be calm and dont utter a word, give chance to your spouse to remove all their frustration and just say dont worry i will solve all the problems.

3. Say sorry and give Hug :- Try saying sorry to your partner whenever required and mean it.Do not say just to say it.If possible give a nice hug to your partner and smile.Manage your tone of voice and keep it neutral.Smile plays a very important role when your smile at your partner, after some time she may even smile back to you.When you smile your behaviour your body structure accordingly will change and show others that you care.

4.Avoid negative advice :- Always choose your friends when you seek for relationship advice, do not take advice from your friends who are having problems into their relationships and are not able to solve their problems.If you happen to ask for advice from such negative friends, mostly they may advice you wrong and which can effect your relationship with your spouse bad if your partner takes it in a negative way.

5. Holiday time :- Try to apply for a leave from office.Tell your spouse to apply for a leave too, at the same time which you are applying, and tell your spouse will take you out somewhere, where you like and try spending quality time.If spouse is working getting leave is another problem from office.If spouse is not working than it wont be a problem.

6. Kids :- When you have children at home, many find it difficult to adjust time specially both husband and wife both are working and to take a leave meaning need to compromise on the studies of the child.But try to balance somehow and try to go out on a holiday for few days to refresh and forget the old past fights and move ahead.

6.Meet a councellor or Psychologist :- If you dont have anyone from your friends, who can advice you better and you are not able to solve your problems, than it is better to go to a councellor, or psychologist or psychiatrist based on the problems that you have.

CONCLUSION :- Time plays a very important role to have a better relationship with your spouse. If you dont have time, than make time for your family, avoid arguments, stay calm and be loving.Love does not only mean sex, love can also be shown by caring and being there for your partner whenever they need you.