MAGIC OF YES TO GET NO WORK - Trick to say No with a twist

 

Everyone would like to hear "YES " When you ask someone help, and if the person on the opposite end tend to tell you "NO" we tend to get upset and at times some people stop talking to the person who have said No.

Here is a small trick which may work wonders,it has worked out with me, and i believe it will work out you too if you try diplomaticly.

1. Say "YES" In a Diplomatic way for financial matters to get NO   :-

Say Yes to the work of others and what if ,even after saying yes, you don't get the work.That's a good news right.saying YES to everyone is a big challenge. If you have a family member who have some work, if its a close family member, and if you wish to help you can, but problem arises when you don't want to say "YES" and your family members pressurises you to say "YES" what will they think  affect you the most.

Many people tends to say "YES" and later grumble, and do the work.So what's the trick .The trick is say "YES" but give them options, in this way the opposite person may not get negative towards you, and not affect their relationship with you.

Example If one of your family member calls you after a long time, asking you how are you, how are things, always it is best to reply, things are little tough but going on.The next question could be need financial help and than it depends on you, if you want to help if you have extra money than you may give.

The person may not feel bad even if you dont give them money since you earlier told them things are going tough with you.

Let me share my true story which happened with me.

I was very close to one of my school teacher, from the time i was in school.She was like my second mother.Initially in the past if she needed any financial help, i had given to her. I used to often call on her birthday without fail, and one day my marriage was fixed and went to give my wedding card to my teacher.

I was going through a hard time at that moment since my business was going down, purchased a house on loan and the marriage was happening all at same time.I wanted to postpone my wedding but there was a pressure from my spouse side to get married.There was financial problem, but was still trying to manage.

After 2 weeks of me giving the wedding card to my teacher, she called me, and asked me how is everything going on,how are your preparations for wedding, i said good nice, again reminder teacher to come for the wedding,than teacher asked me she need some financial help, she need some money.

I really did not wanted to lie my teacher again, i told her honestly things are actually going tough now,since business is going down and pressure of marriage to handle, told teacher with great difficulty trying to manage everything, and told teacher, this time please understand me will not be able to help.

I did not use better choice of words, i thought teacher would still be positive if i said NO.Earlier during the conversation with teacher i did not wanted to tell  my sad story and hence i said everything is going good,but it got reversed and turned bad, when i told everything good and after teacher asking money i telling teacher, actually i am really in a problem.So who would believe.This incident took place almost 9 years before from today.

Teacher got upset, and she did not come for the wedding, i called many times, but teacher disconnected my call and after that never heard.Almost 19 years of good relationship just by saying One "NO" to my teacher she ended a healthy mother - son relationship.So i realised our psychology dont like hearing NO.

The moment we hear NO from someone without a valid justification or a reason, we either stop talking or limit ourselves from talking to the person whether  relative or friend who have said NO.

I realised from that day If we really have to say "NO" we need to have a good choice of words so that the person on the other end who is asking a favour does not get ofended.I tried it and it worked out.

1. If someone calls and ask you how are things with you, so understand the pattern of the person who is calling, it is always advisable to give diplomatic answer by saying, things are tough but still managing.

Most of the times when friends call they may also call casually and at times for money, so it is upto you to understand their pattern of talking and how they ask emotionally.If you say everything is going great and than if your friend or relative ask for money, than you may get stuck.

Now if you change your statements by saying actually you see i am in problem, i am going through lot of financial problem, so for sure the person on opposite end may think that you don't want to help and  they they may feel bad and some  may even stop talking to you.

So when you use words like things are going tough now, somehow managing, even though the person may say i had actually called for money, but looks like even you are going through money problem and they may not feel bad.So this is one way to handle relationships in a better way even when you are saying NO.

If you have extra money and person who is asking is genuine into problem, you may help.There are few emotional people which i have seen, they don't have money and they are themselves  struggling for food but still, if someone from their family memebers,call for money such emotional people borrows from somewhere and gives the relative.So don't be so emotional that you end up problems into your own life.

So even if you tell your relatives or friends who is asking money " Yes " i would really love to help and i wish i had extra money but my hands are tied up, so no one would feel bad.

2.  Say "YES" In a Diplomatic way at Corporate office and still dont get work :-

At corporates where you work, there are intense pressures , so there are people who would like to be smart and try sharing their work with others, they know some may say NO, but some may say YES too.

If anyone tends to ask you to do their part of work, always say let me check my work how much i have, than say for now i have lot of work pending but if you wait till i finish my work, than certainly YES will be able to do it.

So you are not saying NO directly, and if again after a day the same person happens to come back, you can say  the same thing, we both are saling in the same boat i guess, lot of work, if there is something that i can be of help will certainly try.No one would get ofended or feel bad, when you use such kind of words.

 

 CONCLUSION :-

      Everyone likes to hear YES, thats how everyones psychology works,the moment you hear NO from a person we boycott the person from our list.I have seen this happening, from most of my family members,from friends and even from colleagues from office.                                                         

So never say NO, say YES with a twist so that you have a healthy relation with people around you and you dont end up being an emotional fool by say YES to all and later end in trouble.Choice of words that you use is very important.Say YES with a twist and you dont get work.

members, from friends and even from colleagues from office.